14 thoughts on “Can You Get Over Social Anxiety? | How to Cure SAD”

  1. Thanks a lot, Terry.

    I have heard mixed reports of the success of exposure therapy for social anxiety, but obviously it does work for some…

  2. Hey Craig, great article about overcoming social anxiety and creating a balanced lifestyle. I feel some people who say they have social anxiety have, just plain, anxiety. Whether socializing or by themselves, they have an underlying feeling of unease, stress, or anxiety, which affects the quality of their lives. Today, I have seen several therapists use exposure therapy to overcome social anxiety. It’s done in a controlled environment and has been successful. Statistics show that a percentage of people with social anxiety have substance dependence issues as well, which complicate addressing the underlying anxiety issue. Your article is an eye-opener to those who need some guidance dealing with their own or their loved one’s anxiety. Great article, look forward to reading more of your posts.

  3. Hi Craig, Overcoming social anxiety is hard.  If you have a hard time challenging your negative thoughts, the most useful step is to share your experience with your friends and family.

    Social anxiety can be very uncomfortable but if you learn to relax, you can make it a little easier to face social situations.

    We avoid situations that cause social anxiety, however, avoiding social situations increases our fear in the long-term. Therefore, in managing your social anxiety is to face the situations that you have been avoiding because of social fears. If you face those situations, it reduces distress in the long-term and helps build up confidence as well.

  4. That’s a great story, Jim! That was definitely a very good day for you.

    I’m so glad the article was valuable to you. You made my day!

  5. Hi Craig. I let social anxiety strangle my natural abilities for many years. It wasn’t until I realised the trigger that I learned to deal with it. I said ‘deal with it’ because I never actually totally got rid of it. My anxiety issues were caused by many years of bullying during my primary school years by one individual. At the time I decided I was a loner, dumb and that no one likes me. The bullying stopped at high school level but my insecurities continued. That was until I reached the middle years of high school. I was nominated by a boy to become form captain and myself and several others were asked to leave the room. When I returned I had been voted in as form captain. I asked my friend why they choose me and he said ‘ because you’re smart, kind and all the girls live you. This simple occurrence changed my life. I have never totally lost my insecurities and anxieties but I learned to live with them. That is until I read your article, checked out the attached videos and realised I could still rewire my brain. Thank you for this incredible article. Jim

  6. I believe social anxiety has increased in these pandemic times as some people are not comfortable around strangers anymore or even their own friends and family that they hardly see. I am one of those as I do not want to die due to Covid and do not want to get sick due to other people not following rules or just don’t care. I have overcome this scare by avoiding certain events until everything calms down. Plus got the vaccine. So that whatever happens I am covered.

  7. This is something I have dealt with and continue to deal with. I honestly don’t remember when I started to consider that I might have social anxiety (or the point in time that the anxiety developed), so that baffles me at times. I remember feeling like I fit in fine and interacted just fine socially up until sometime around age 16/17. 

    Great article ending on the high note of neuroplasticity. I kind of intuitively started enhancing my neuroplasticity – even before I even knew what it was. Just by acknowledging damaging thought patterns and replacing them with empowering ones; literally “renewing the mind”. It has been a slow process, but I have gotten much better!

  8. Right on, Mattis! 

    Yes, please do watch the video when you have a chance. You’ll enjoy it.

    Thanks for the response!

  9. Yes, yes, yes! I absolutely agree with that first tip. Like 1000% agree. We really have to see ourselves past our social anxiety or any current limitation we might be struggling with. That’s kind of always the first step, the way I see. Because it gets your thinking right. And that’s a huge part of it all.

    I really loved that breakdown on the beliefs. And, yeah, I agree with every bit on neuroplasticity. I mean, for sure, it can bend back to the truth. It’s all about patterns. Certain behavior got us into social anxiety. There is a pattern to get out of it. 

    I will have to check out that video as well. I really appreciate that suggestion. Cheers. 🙂

  10. Thank you, Aly. Yes, it is a terribly paralyzing thing. I wish I had learned to do something about mine a lot earlier in life!

  11. I do know someone with social anxiety and I have seen up close just how debilitating it can be. It’s also accompanied by the more recognized form of general anxiety that includes scary panic attacks. There have been some tricks and tips that have helped. For instance, they find texting people that they might like to take on a date to be just fine, but they would not be able to approach the person face-to-face. 

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It’s always nice to see additional perspectives to find things that may help.

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